Special advice

I am on a song kick right now so every now and then one may pop here. When I use a song, I'll try to share why it means something.

When we got married, lots of people had advice and things to share with us. A lot of it I took with a grain of salt. However, one piece of advice, from friends of The Captain's parents stuck with us. I am sure many have heard it - "never go to bed angry". Wise words that come from Ephesians 4:26
"In your anger do not sin. Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry,"

They also told us that they said the Lord's Prayer together before the went to sleep. They have been happily married for over 40 years :0). We changed things a bit, we didn't say the Lord's Prayer but we prayed together each night. No matter what the day brought we ended it together. I have to admit, though, that we haven't always followed the "don't go to bed angry" advice. And you know what, it is horrible what it does to your relationship. It's always over something so stupid and it usually me thinking "I'll show him. I won't talk and he'll just know I am upset." Manipulation doesn't work (at least not the way we intend) and it doesn't fall under my Biblical job description as First Mate to behave this way. So really, the only person I end up hurting is myself and I lose a night of sleep.

Now The Captain works 3rd shift and we don't go to bed together every night. I really miss our prayer "nightcaps". One might not think this is a big deal but it really is. We liken our marriage to a cord made of 3 strands - Christ being the 3rd "person". Without that 3rd strand, the cord weakens and can break. You take away little things, like praying together, and it becomes easier and easier to think that we can do it in our own strength. Not gonna happen. I have recommited to ending our night in prayer - even if it is when he has to walk out the door to work.

Don't go to bed angry. Talk and then talk some more if you need to. Otherwise one brick becomes two and before you know it there is a wall. We don't know what tomorrow holds. I want there to be no regrets for me and the man who holds my heart.

Between You And Me
Artist: DC Talk

[It's just between you and me]
[I've got something' to say]
[I wanna get it straight]
[Before the sun goes down]

Sorrow is a lonely feeling
Unsettled is a painful place
I've lived with both for far too long now
Since we've parted ways
I've been wrestling with my conscience
And I found myself to blame
If there's to be any resolution
I've got to peel my pride away

(chorus)
Just between you and me
I've got something' to say
Wanna get it straight
Before the sun goes down
Just between you and me
Confession needs to be made
Recompense is my way to freedom now
Just between you and me
I've got something to say

If confession is the road to healing
Forgiveness is the promised land
I'm reaching out in my conviction
I'm longing to make amends
So, I'm sorry for the words I've spoken
For I've betrayed a friend
We've got a love that's worth preserving
And a bond I will defend

(repeat chorus)

In my pursuit of God, I thirst for holiness
As I approach the Son, I must consider this
Offenses unresolved, they'll keep me from the throne
Before I go to Him my wrong must be atoned

If there's to be any resolution
I've got to peel this pride away

Just between you and me
I've got something' to say
I wanna get it straight
Before the sun goes down
Just between you and me
Confession needs to be made
Recompense is my way to freedom
It's my way to freedom

It's my way to freedom (2x)
I've got something to say, so let me say it today
It's my way to freedom (2x)