A comfortable place

That's where I am at - a comfortable place. I am talking about my marriage. Maybe comfortable isn't the most accurate word - safe, secure, content, blissfully happy and deeply, passionately in love - would also be appropriate.

We've been on this journey for 10.5 years already and our relationship is so different today then when we got married. Back then, we were crazy in love with one another but it was still all so new. We were still two selfish individuals who needed to become one unit. No problem, physically, but emotionally & spiritually it was much more work. We loved each other and the idea of starting our life together but the reality was that we both came with our own ideas and ways of doing things, thoughts on money and what kind of toothpaste we liked. It's almost comical looking back on that time now and remembering how stubborn and bent out of shape I would get because The Man didn't like gel paste (he says it's an oxymoron anyway LOL). Finances were another area we often had moments of disagreement. We were so opposite in how we grew up and did things in that area. Neither of us wanted to be the one who changed and often went on the defensive when a situation would arise.

But something has happened over time. The fact that there hasn't been gel paste in our house in 10.5 years doesn't bother me at all. Not a big deal. There wasn't a "KaaaPOW!!" moment where it all just fell into place, simply a growth of love and most importantly, TRUST. We went through a very dry season financially a little while ago. In the beginning of our marriage the images in Proverbs 19:13 and 21:9 would have probably fit. But during this particular time, we banded together, realizing we were on the same team and wanting the same goal. We both had to let go of self and trust each other. More importantly, I needed to trust the husband that God blessed me with. He is the head of our home and I am his helpmeet. Together, we can face whatever "valleys" we come upon.

I am so amazed at the peace that comes from this trust. I often wondered what it would be like 5, 10, 15 years into marriage. Once the honeymoon glow left, would we still enjoy each other? Would we always have things to say to one another? What if we had kids, would we lose who we were together? I love that we are better and stronger than ever. The passion is most definitely still alive and better because of the trust. We are soulmates in every sense of the word.

I hope everyone can find that "comfortable place"